Learn From Others AND Learn to Consult Yourself
One thing I noticed is that when someone is often doing things I like, and they seem to be happy, they become a "role model." Role models are great! The teacher-student dynamic can occur through out one's entire life in different ways - sometimes you are the teacher too! But there needs to be a balance. You must know that only YOU know what is best for YOU. And this becomes easier as you learn to better hear your own voice.
For example, my friend always takes naps in the afternoon. I liked the way she takes care of herself and her needs, and therefore has more to give others, so I wanted to learn from her. In the beginning I would try out the things she does, say taking naps in the afternoon. What I sometimes forgot to think about is "is this working for me?" Sometimes I would even consult her on what she thought was right for me. And while she may know me better than many, she couldn't possibly know my intricate needs, at least not in the way I can know them. After all, I'm living in my body, not someone else! Maybe I need naps in the evening, or in the morning. Or maybe just every-other day. You gotta check in with your self, on a regular basis, to fine tune the lessons you learn from others and avoid getting stuck for too long in a pattern that isn't helping you.
You are the Expert on You
Keep in mind that it takes time to hear your self and your own heart's desires, so remember to be patient like my turtle friend Norba the Great!
It Takes the "Try" out of "Trying"
Imagine that! Exercise
See how the stone is turning into flowers and other things? Let your imagination flow!